How to Stop School Bullying
The problem of persecution of a child in school existed at all times. In the last decade, it is becoming especially relevant. Plots in television news, journalistic broadcasts are full of facts that testify various types of bullying in schools. The trend of today is schools cyber bullying. One of the goals is to capture on the mobile phone how the process of the humiliation of a person takes place, in order to subsequently put the video on the Internet and thus satisfy the need for self-affirmation.
Up to 10 years, the problems in communicating are not permanent. At the end of the junior school age, a team develops with its moral guidelines, principles of communication and leaders. If the class is dominated by negative moral attitudes, and leadership is achieved through aggression, then one or more members of the children’s collective become outcasts. Such children and teenagers become victims of bullying. This is a psychological concept. Bullying in school can take the ugliest forms of violence such as physical, verbal, psychological and emotional. School hooligans try to offend, touching on the most painful issues, including weight, height, appearance, intelligence, sex and skin color. Sometimes it has mass character. Some hooligans continue to mock their victims even outside the school, sending offensive SMS, e-mails, pursuing the schoolchild in social networks. Portal Kidspoll conducted a research on this matter. 48% of children were bullying victims at least ones. The object of persecution is usually lonely, timid, emotionally sensitive and physically weak children. The following categories of pupils are in the risk zone. There are children with physical disabilities; overly cared for by adults who do not have the skills to interact with peers; who are not assimilating the curriculum; inadequately evaluating themselves (too high or too low self-esteem); and who do not comply with the rules and do not observe the hierarchy in this team. Talented children are also sometimes subjected to social bullying.
Child bullying rarely ends without consequences. Only the most volitional children with a stable psyche forget about the persecution they were subjected to after finishing school. In the majority of cases, persistent persecutions have a negative impact on the development of the individual: an insecure, self-contained person grows up. The most dramatic version leads to suicide.
Intimidation, bullying, jokes, emotional and even physical influences in school can cause great problems. The problem of aggressive hooligans is most relevant for school groups, in which the child is left alone with peers, not all of whom are well brought up.
Conflicts in class can lead to emotional trauma. Assistance in this situation is required not only by the injured student but also by the aggressor, who can suffer from moral or physical violence by adults or even his parents. Prosperous children from good families rarely become hooligans.
Conflicts can cause a decline in academic performance. Anxiety, inability to focus on learning and other emotional problems that inevitably arise in such cases, interfere with the child’s normal learning, discourage his desire to attend school at all, to take part in extracurricular activities. Problems with discipline can also arise. The child begins to skip school to avoid meeting with abusers.
The presence of hooligans in the classroom creates an unhealthy atmosphere in the team, which also has a negative impact on those students who do not even directly participate in the conflicts. Many of them may be afraid of possible persecution. In turn, the hooligan, feeling his impunity, may begin to behave even more aggressively.
The victims of bullying sometimes behave in this way in adulthood. Gaining power over people, they tend to humiliate subordinates, may be prone to the use of violence in the family. For the hooligans themselves, the conflicts in the school will not end well. Such children sometimes have problems with the law in adulthood; they stand on the criminal path. Sometimes this is due to education in disadvantaged families and is also characteristic of children who are themselves victims in another collective or family. Timely interference of adults and resolution of the situation can correct the fate of such a child, although this is quite difficult.
Parents should not think that conflicts in the school are resolved by themselves. In conformity with the research, children who suffered from physical and moral violence in school sometimes have low self-esteem and a number of other emotional problems, including such serious diseases as chronic depression and anxiety. This problem can be solved only by joint efforts. Parents, teachers, and psychologist should take part in it. A school where children spend a significant part of their time is responsible in case of unhealthy relationships in the children’s team. An attentive and sensitive teacher will notice that there is an abnormal situation in the class. The position of the teacher is extremely important because he can psychologically support the child, organize a support group for the offended, stop attempts to hurt him, and help create a situation of success. Parents should see what is happening with the child, maintain a trusting relationship with him. Otherwise, the lack of support from adults can lead to sad consequences when the child makes attempts to commit suicide or physical violence against the offenders.
Written by: Grademiners.co